iOS: Fans of the previously mentioned Mindbloom Life Game, which rewards you with levels and points for doing healthy, positive things for yourself, will love the Bloom app for the iPhone, which helps you stay motivated on the go, get quick activities to help you keep going through a tough day. The app picked up a major update today and now allows you to use your own music and photos to build custom reminders to eat lunch away from your desk, connect with your loved ones, relax and destress over the course of the day, and more.

Bloom works a lot like a portable version of the Mindbloom Life Game, reminding you to take small steps over the course of the day to stay happy, productive, and stress-free. The app allows you to "plant blooms" over the course of your day so you get push notifications when it's time to take a break, eat a healthy snack, reach out to a friend or family member to reconnect or say hello, or enjoy a short audio or photo presentation designed to help you stay inspired.

Those experiences can be downloaded through the app, or, thanks to today's update to the app, you can remix your own music and photos into an inspiring motivational message to keep you going through a tough day. So if soothing music and nature photos are up your alley, you can do that, but if thumping beats and courage wolf are what keeps you going when the world wants to beat you down, you can have that too. Whatever you build, you can set the app to pop them up at strategic times during the day, or you can share them with friends on Twitter or Facebook to give your friends a boost too.

Bloom is completely free, and iOS only. You can grab the app in the iTunes App Store.

Bloom* | iTunes App Store via Mindbloom

Body language accounts for most of how we communicate and so it's helpful to know what certain cues can mean to gain a better understanding of what people are telling you. Here's a helpful infographic from blogger/illustrator Yumi Sakugawa that can teach you the basics in just a minute.

The image covers your standard cues, such as eye positions that indicate lies, standing positions indicate interest, the difference between a fake and a genuine smile, and much more. If you want to learn more about non-verbal cues, check out our guide to uncovering the truth by reading body language.

Here's the full graphic (click to expand or right-click to save):

How to Decode Body Language | Secrets from the Yumiverse

Anyone who's worked in an office long enough knows that there are some things you just don't say to your boss, or in a meeting with your coworkers. At the same time, most of us probably know someone who's sat in a team meeting, looked at someone's idea on a whiteboard, and proclaimed "That's impossible! Can't be done!" without even hearing it through—or worse, after the work to do it is well underway. That's just one of the phrases that Ask Men suggests you avoid at the office to keep your professional cred intact and your boss happy with your attitude.

In addition to "that's impossible," Ask Men also warns against using "That's not in my job description," and "That's not my problem," and the ever-irritating "I don't get paid enough for this." We've talked about some phrases to avoid in general, but uttering these ones around the office—especially to your boss—are what we used to refer to at my old job as "career limiting statements." They communicate a fatalistic, "I don't care" attitude to your manager and your coworkers, which, even if you are frustrated and you don't believe the job is possible or important, doesn't do anyone any good.

Instead, the key is to spin those statements—especially if you have reason to believe them—into phrases that are supported by evidence and are constructive to the task at hand. If you think something is "impossible," instead of just saying so, explain why you think the task isn't feasible. Stop and reflect on what your evidence is, if you have to—often taking time to think about why you think something is impossible is enough to determine whether there's a real problem, or the task just seems too big to handle. If you think you're doing work that's a distraction from your real goals (eg, not in your job description,) you should point that out instead of throwing up your hands.

Everyone gets frustrated at the office sometimes, but it's how we handle it that makes the difference between keeping a good job and pushing through the irritation and getting in trouble or a bad reputation for being a difficult employee. What are some of the things you're tired of hearing from some of your coworkers? Share your experiences in the comments below.

10 Things To Never Say To Your Boss | Ask Men

Photo by Yuri Arcurs (Shutterstock).

Seeing as I am neither an oil baron nor a trophy wife (yet), I've never given much thought to the idea of prenuptial agreements. Those are for people with elevators in their houses and gold-plated-robot-monkey-butlers, right? (It's like a regular monkey-butler but golder and without all the feces.) Those are for dukes, princes, viscounts, sheiks, lords, ladies, magnates, Kardashians, and people who live waaaaay closer to the beach than me—people who actually own something worth losing. And anyway, I'm not even married. Why bother thinking about prenups? A bunch of reasons, it turns out.

CNN says:

Prenuptial agreements aren't just for married folks anymore. A growing number of unmarried couples are seeking similar legal protections through cohabitation agreements. These legally-binding contracts, which are drawn up by an attorney, protect each person's assets, address child custody issues and determine support obligations, much like prenuptial agreements do.

"We've seen a real dramatic increase," said Ken Altshuler, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, or AAML. "A lot more people are delaying, or forgoing, marriage and people are realizing as you get older, you have more things to protect."

Huh. To be honest, my gut reaction was…sarcastic bile. Like, sure! Why don't we just go through life never trusting anything or anybody or taking any risks! Clearly the big problem in this world is that people aren't jealous and grasping enough! Plus, this part:

Ironically, couples in the honeymoon phase of their relationship are best suited to map out these types of difficult situations, advised Daniel Clement, a divorce lawyer in New York. "It's a happy time, when you don't have the bitterness that you experience at the time of a break up."

Great. Cool plan. Hey, honey. You know how we're really really happy right now? What do you say we sit down and imagine a billion doomsday scenarios in which you try to fuck me over and steal my house? Also, you complete me and stuff. Show me the money.

Then, in preparing to write this post (down with prenups! Up with romance! No pain, no gain, bitchez!), I happened to mention the whole thing to a friend of mine-Guy Branum, a comedian who also went to law school-and promptly discovered that I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about. The conversation was so enlightening that I'm posting it here in its entirety:

Guy: It basically comes down to this: To what extent do these structures encourage a woman to focus on a relationship instead of her career because her man has greater earning potential?

Lindy: Right. But I get confused. The prenup, generally, is designed to PREVENT the woman from taking "more than her share," right? Or are prenups used to make things more equitable? Like…is the law fair? Or are the prenups fair? My brain is broken.

Guy: Well, it depends. There are two systems of divorce law in the US.

Forty-one states have what's called "equitable distribution." Those give a woman "what she deserves," so women get screwed or women get jackpots, depending on the judge. Awww, she stayed home, poor dear! Oh, she cheated on him! She deserves nothing! Equitable distribution leaves huge space for a judge-probably male, despite what Law & Order has led you to think-to make value judgments about you, a woman, and how you live your life.

And nine states-including California-have "community property," where, while married, the man gets half of the woman's income from work, and the woman gets half of the man's income from work. Things owned before marriage are separate. Community property is, in my opinion, not terrible from a feminist perspective. In California, prenups are a way of screwing women. It's a way of saying, "You get two million dollars and some lovely parting gifts." Community property presumes equality in a really badass way.

In an unmarried situation, no one has a claim. You're just constantly creating unspoken contracts. In a way, not getting married is way more dangerous for women than for men. Palimony basically doesn't exist except through contract, so a prenup for an unmarried couple is a way of getting quasi-married without the tax benefits. It's what we gays do in states where we can't do anything else.

Lindy: That's so interesting!!! And confusing.

Guy: Yes. Agreed. But magically so.

Lindy: But it seems like it might be good to have it be up to a judge's discretion. Because what if I was a terrible wife? And we were only married for 20 minutes, and all I did was be horrible and then take a nap? And then I got half?

Guy: No. It's like this. Community property: You get half from 20 minutes. But just what he made in that 20 minutes.

Lindy: Okay, so, in equitable distribution a prenup can be helpful for the lady, but in community property it is mostly for the purposes of screwing.

Guy: Yes. And all of these systems do kind of encourage women to raise a family/help her hubby with his career.

Lindy: Right. Okay. SORRY I AM SO SLOW AND DENSE.

Guy: It's okay. Would you like an opinion?

Lindy: Sure.

Guy: Newfangled relationship and property arrangements are fine if you're living newfangled and feminist lives. But if you at all put your career on hold to focus on family or childcare in an unmarried situation, if you practice old-school marriage without the legal rights protecting it, then you deserve what you get. If you own a house, keep track of who pays what. But if you're not gonna do that, JUST GET FUCKING MARRIED.

Lindy: But what is the real risk for unmarried people? Aren't they just at risk for a big pain in the ass? The pain in the ass of having to decide how to split everything up?

Guy: If you're unmarried, you're just constantly creating unspoken contracts. It depends on if one of the unmarried people did commit themselves to the other's career. A big example is Robert Rauschenberg's boyfriend saying he was promised some paintings in exchange for the work he did to support Robert's career.

OH. And what if your boyfriend dies? Who gets the house? If you were married, you get the house. If you are unmarried and have no children and no will, HIS MOM gets the house. Or some percentage of the house based on the mortgage payments you haven't been keeping track of. Also, what if you have joint checking? Or what if you buy groceries and pay power and he pays the mortgage or car payments? Then, when you break up, he owns the house or car, even though you were indirectly contributing.

Lindy: GOD, RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE WORST.

Guy: I know. It's all about planning for destruction. The feminist's answer, in my opinion, as a dude, is move to California and just get married.

Lindy: Okay. To sum up: community property is the #1 best for feminists because it values intangible and emotional contributions as much as monetary ones. Is that fair to say?

Guy: No.

Lindy: Oh.

Guy: The strength and determination to write your own prenup based on your property and jobs and forecasted life (but which is pretty much like community property) is best for feminists. Community property is a not-so-bad alternative for feminists who don't have it in them to fight all these fights. And in the other 41 states, women need to be on their toes and create something LIKE community property in a prenup.

Lindy: Right! Okay. God, I kind of want to just post this whole conversation. Because I feel like a lot of people have no understanding of this, particularly young people. Because I have no understanding of this and I am hella smart!!!

Guy: Do it.

Lindy: Done. Thank you. This has been fun and informative!

Guy: Now I must go write jokes about Fergie's clothes.

Lindy: Godspeed. I'm still not getting a prenup.